The Day After
Have you thought about the day after you say “I do”? You know, when all the excitement and focus on the wedding is over, you’ve returned from your glorious honeymoon, and now it’s back to the ‘real’ world.
We get so wrapped up in the wedding that we forget that that is just the beginning. I, for one, had given little thought to our life after the wedding. In fact, I wasn’t even sure I was going to feel any different after saying some words and exchanging rings. All I was sure of was that I wanted to be with Rog for the rest of my life. I would take what came and we’d go through it together – somehow.
Like our wedding planning, time has been a factor in the ever-unfolding of our relationship. And, like our wedding planning, we hit some bumps along the way in our first few months as husband and wife.
Initially, in the first few months of “the day after,” our egos clashed a little when we treated the one (our relationship) as two (separate self-centered individuals). I realized I had to learn to trust that Rog really loved me as he said he did, which was a love of a magnitude and breadth such as I’d never experienced. And, I had to learn that what was best for us as a couple, the third entity that was born out of Rog and out of me, and how we faced each other and the world was what mattered. Gratefully, I’m often a quick study.
We have developed a style of communication that works for both of us. We always talk matters over as soon after as we realize that something might be off kilter. We always come back to our love and joy. And, I like keep our marriage promises nearby to remind me of the commitment I made to this dear man.
We are really here to help support the other to be all that he/she can be. I don’t look to belittle my husband but to honor and respect and cherish him. I don’t look to get from him what I lack. We are two individuals who have come together and in the overflow have created this third entity, this wonderful union of two souls in a holy relationship of marriage.
So what’s “the day after” look like to you?
We get so wrapped up in the wedding that we forget that that is just the beginning. I, for one, had given little thought to our life after the wedding. In fact, I wasn’t even sure I was going to feel any different after saying some words and exchanging rings. All I was sure of was that I wanted to be with Rog for the rest of my life. I would take what came and we’d go through it together – somehow.
Like our wedding planning, time has been a factor in the ever-unfolding of our relationship. And, like our wedding planning, we hit some bumps along the way in our first few months as husband and wife.
Initially, in the first few months of “the day after,” our egos clashed a little when we treated the one (our relationship) as two (separate self-centered individuals). I realized I had to learn to trust that Rog really loved me as he said he did, which was a love of a magnitude and breadth such as I’d never experienced. And, I had to learn that what was best for us as a couple, the third entity that was born out of Rog and out of me, and how we faced each other and the world was what mattered. Gratefully, I’m often a quick study.
We have developed a style of communication that works for both of us. We always talk matters over as soon after as we realize that something might be off kilter. We always come back to our love and joy. And, I like keep our marriage promises nearby to remind me of the commitment I made to this dear man.
We are really here to help support the other to be all that he/she can be. I don’t look to belittle my husband but to honor and respect and cherish him. I don’t look to get from him what I lack. We are two individuals who have come together and in the overflow have created this third entity, this wonderful union of two souls in a holy relationship of marriage.
So what’s “the day after” look like to you?
posted by Rog | 4:27 PM
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