Trust + Cooperation

So, let’s look at Rog’s and mine first dream “...the peace of full two-way trust and cooperation with everyone in our lives.”

This dream came about as the result of us looking at our relationships past and current, individually and as a couple.

That’s all fine and dandy, but the very first relationship to look at in this way is the one between you and the one you’ve chosen to be your spouse. Does the bride trust her groom? Does the groom trust his bride?

Trust is defined as “the assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something; one in which confidence is placed.” [www.merriam-webster.com]

Because of who Rog is, I trust him, so when we talk, I feel I’m being heard, respected, and loved. Herein lies peace. This trust has and continues to deepen over time and provides hope that all my relationships can carry this trust and hence, this peace.

What about cooperation? I’m talking about working as a team, giving and taking, discussing each partner’s ideas and feelings with the mutual benefit of the coupleship in mind. What better experience to employ cooperation and teamwork than in planning a wedding, your wedding, both of yours! This day is not just the bride’s day (contrary to what you usually hear). Two people are making a commitment on this occasion and to have a joyful, love-filled time. When both of you share in the work, the fun, the meaning of it all, you are laying a foundation for your marriage. You are discovering one another’s strengths, fears, passions, and building teamwork along the way. There is peace here too.

Two-way trust + cooperation = peace. Starting with our coupleship and moving into all of our relationships.